I don't think I have ever agreed with the idea of co-sleeping with your child. I was simply freaked out by the fact that I could possibly squish my baby in my sleep or that eventually they would get use to my company so much that they would never leave my bed. And what about my intimate relationship with my husband?
Well... I changed my mind a little when our second daughter was born. She at first had a little corner in our bedroom and then once my parents left to Poland at the age of 8 months we moved her to her own room. To be honest I was kind of sad to lose this little roommate but deep in my heart I knew it was time for her to have her own space. She never really slept with us. We just share the room. The only times she ended up being in bed with us were during feedings times but even then it wasn't a constant because I enjoyed nursing in a rocking chair.
Nella had a bad cold the last couple of days and I decided to let her sleep in our bed. I just got the feeling that she would wake up multiple times during the night because of how congested she was. And I was right... She did. Even sleeping by my side. But at least I didn't have to walk to her room in the middle of the night to comfort her. When going to sleep the second night I was kind of excited knowing she would be there. I gave her tons of smooches and she just touched my face and threw her arm over my neck. At that moment right there I thought my heart would jump out of my chest and I think I even teared up a little bit. What a joy it was to have her by my side.
I now see how co-sleeping with your child makes life easier, brings you closer and comforts. I admit that the second round around we are not as strict when it goes about sleeping habits. Nella sleeps in her crib, for the most part. Sometimes in our bed and sometimes in a little bed we just opened up in her sister's room. When she is tired she will even climb up the couch and rest there. What she needs is a pillow and a nice snuggle... But honestly, wouldn't you?